Even when you’re not together, you are.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” someone once said. And, ever since, it’s become a mantra for lovers in long distance relationships.
It’s important to hold onto love quotes and sayings like that when you’re in a long distance romance (aka LDR), because, at some point, both participants will find themselves struggling to justify why it’s all worth it.
They will find themselves standing in front of a mirror, trying to talk themselves into being fine with being in love with someone who is so very far away that they have to spend so much time missing each other.
LDRs can be hard relationships for anyone to pull off. The gap between physical separation and emotional connection is one that many couples struggle to bridge.
But when all that separation and longing is for the sake of true love — it’s worth it.
When your connection with another person is that powerful, then you absolutely have to forget about conventional logic and go for it.
Of course, it always helps to hear from others who’ve gone through that you’re going through now, and these 26 heartfelt and inspiring love quotes about what it’s like to be in long distance relationships encapsulate the full range of emotions absence can create in a romance.
If these love quotes resonate with you about your own relationship, know that your love can span continents and beyond, and that, when it comes to missing the person you love more than anything or anyone else, you are definitely not alone.
Here are 26 of the best long distance relationship love quotes that perfectly illustrate the fact that when it’s true, distance means nothing.
1. “Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great.”
2. “I imagine a line, a white line, painted on the sand and on the ocean, from me to you.”
3. “The scariest thing about distance is you don’t know if they’ll miss you or forget about you.”
— Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
4. “Contrary to what the cynics say, distance is not for the fearful; it’s for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love.”
5. “Your absence has not taught me how to be alone; it has merely shown me that when together we cast a single shadow on the wall.”
6. “I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart).”
7. “And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
8. “Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.”
9. “This is the sad bed of chosen chastity because you are miles and mountains away.”
10. “If you listen to the wind very carefully, you’ll be able to hear me whisper my love for you.”
11. “I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
― Steve Maraboli
12. “Our hours in love have wings; in absence, crutches.”
13. “Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; and every little absence is an age.”
14. “I don’t cry because we’ve been separated by distance, and for a matter of years. Why? Because for as long as we share the same sky and breathe the same air, we’re still together.”
― Donna Lynn Hope
15. “Distance does not break off the friendship absolutely, but only the activity of it.”
16. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard?”
— A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh
17. “I miss you even more than I could have believed; and I was prepared to miss you a good deal.”
18. “Waiting does not bother me, nor does the distance that is cropping up between us. All I want is a true commitment and to know that your heart will never change.”
19. “As contraries are known by contraries, so is the delight of presence best known by the torments of absence.”
20. “Love is missing someone when you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in the heart.”
— Kay Knudsen
21. “Some of the toughest things in this world are to really want someone and not have them around you. Those are the times when you don’t know what to do. All you can do is wait.”
22. “Love knows no distance; it hath no continent; its eyes are for the stars.”
23. “In true love, the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.”
24. “Absence sharpens love. Presence strengthens it.”
25. “It’s not the distance that’s the enemy, but the endless time I have to wait to hold you in my arms.”
— Livius Besski
26. “Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness.”
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The Real Reasons Why You Always Attract Narcissistic Men
Are you wondering why you’re attracting narcissistic mates?
Attraction to a narcissist is bad news and if you want to avoid it, you need to look at the various attachment styles that make you an attractive victim to these types of men.
So, if you’ve ever found yourself drawn to a narcissist, you may feel like a bug attracted to light.
American singer and songwriter Aimee Mann demonstrates her understanding of the “narcissistic alliance” in her 2002 hit song “The Moth“, which opens with the following verse:
The moth don’t care when he sees the flame
He might get burned but he’s in the game
And once he’s in, he can’t go back
He’ll beat his wings till he burns them black
Some scientists scratch their heads trying to understand why a moth will always fly into a flame that burns its wings. Theories range from pheromones that draw a moth to the light all the way to the theory that light acts as a moth’s directional compass, telling it where to go.
In both scenarios, the moth is seduced by the light causing it to head into danger without consideration for the consequences ahead.
In the therapeutic space, clients who enter into relationships with a narcissist often discover they follow the same pattern, ignoring the many red flags that appear during the relational flight course.
The good news is, if you happen to be one of those people, you can change the way you navigate future relationships so it’s easier to find the love you’re seeking.
To start off, we need to define narcissism, what it is, and what it isn’t.
A narcissistic personality exists on a continuum that we all live on. On the one end, are people who can behave immaturely, selfishly, with a touch of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and can be extremely self-focused.
On the other end, there are people who are truly self-less, care deeply about others and their well-being, and who see others as different from them but value those differences greatly.
Most of us lie in the middle.
As human beings, we all are self-motivated to some degree and that means that we all have our own needs in relationships and we also have our own version of relational struggles.
The issue with the narcissist is that they lack empathy for the other people in their life.
A person with true narcissistic behavior, in a clinical sense, can only see others as objects for their pleasure, not as people with wants, needs, vulnerabilities, and feelings.
Instead, they exploit those wants, needs, and vulnerabilities because, for some people, it gives them a false sense of power and superiority. For others, it feeds them with a sick sense of pleasure.
Regardless of the motivation, if you are a metaphorical moth who always seems to be drawn to a narcissist’s flame, then you know how charred the wings of your heart can get hoping that your love interest picks you over their own needs, wants, and desires.
You likely also know, even though you may hope to the high heavens that things will be different this time, that in this type of relationship, you always get burnt in the end.
While many people in this predicament torment themselves trying to understand why their narcissistic mate treats them the way they do, the more important question is, why are you drawn to them like a moth to the flame?
The answer lies in your attachment style.
Your attachment style, which was formed early in childhood, is like your preprogrammed flight plan. It is your due-north and directs you where to go almost without thinking.
For most people, their attachment style developed during your childhood and was impacted by how your parent’s or caregivers treated you. If you were neglected, mistreated, abandoned or hurt in other ways, you unconsciously look for this pattern in future relationships (this is like your own pheromones directing you to a familiar scent).
Unfortunately, until you learn how to understand why you’re attracted to these kinds of pre-programmed relationships, you will continue to seek out relationships that model the ones you were in as a child.
While many try to “think” their way out of this pattern, hoping it will happen never works.
Most people need to access their early relational wounding in a deeper way, usually through psychotherapy. When this happens, a person can grieve and unburden themselves from unconscious beliefs placed there as a child.
These could include thoughts like:
- “I’m not lovable.”
- “Only when I behave in certain ways will a person love me.”
- “My job in a relationship is to make them happy regardless of my needs.”
- “Their needs come first.”
- “I don’t deserve to be happy.“
Once a person brings this kind of thinking into therapy, a good therapist can help them unpack these beliefs and heal them with more loving ones. In therapy, the work is actually to replace these negative beliefs with more positive ones which reduce the attraction to future narcissists because the need to feed these beliefs dies off.
When this happens, the words to Aimee Man’s song can be replaced with something more like:
“The moth will care when s/he sees the flame
S/he won’t get burned
Cause s/he’s left the game.”
Being attracted to narcissists is not a life sentence if you do the work to heal.
You can choose to find healthier paths to love but it does require that you dig a little deeper to see what is causing you to feel like a moth to a flame whenever one comes around.
Maura Matarese, M.A., LMHC, is a psychotherapist, speaker, and author of the book: Finding Hope in the Crisis: A Therapist’s Perspective on Love, Loss, and Courage. She is also creating online self- help courses to help you heal your heart after loss and betrayal, so please enjoy a free self-help workbook to teach you how to heal your broken heart.